Awareness is where real transformation begins. Becoming conscious of our thoughts, emotions, and patterns, we step out of autopilot and into the driver’s seat of our lives.

Being aware doesn’t mean judging yourself or wishing things were different; it means observing with curiosity and compassion. For me, I started becoming aware of thoughts, emotions and patterns of behavior that were causing me to have poor relationships, limiting the joy I was experiencing. You see I would find myself in situations where I thought I should be experiencing more support and love and when it didn’t happen, I would dismiss it.

“They have had a difficult time; they’re doing their best.”

Now, understanding what I do now, I can see where empathy is warranted. However, I do not need to be as involved with a person who is not ready to reciprocate. Read that again, I can have empathy for a person, but I should not lower my standards of relationship because they are still in the process of growing into a mature, self-actualizing person. I am aware of how I react to situations and I question with curiosity, not judgment;

“Why am I feeling this way?”

I sit with it and I don’t make excuses for others anymore I simply accept who they are in this moment. I choose from a place of power not fear whether to allow this person to impact my life. What role will they play in my story, an acquaintance or a deeper role? This is just one example of being aware of thoughts and emotions associated with them and how our patterns of behavior can change to reflect our desires.

Awareness as a Superpower In moments of awareness, you’re creating space for a new response. Instead of being caught in a loop of automatic reactions, you get to choose a different path — one that aligns with the person you want to be. For personal power, ask yourself:

“Is this coming from a place of power or fear?“

If it is fear, do not be afraid. Sit with it, feel it, and find the power within yourself to say:

“I deserve better.”

Respond with power, with love and walk away from that which does not serve you. Whether it is a person, a situation, or your own negative thoughts. Choose an empowering response that resonates with your beliefs about how we should show up in this life. The more you are able to do this for yourself the more you reclaim your power and allow others to do the same.

Actionable Step:

This week, try a mindfulness exercise to strengthen your awareness. For one minute, focus on your breath and observe any thoughts or emotions that arise. Notice each without judgment, like clouds passing by, and bring your attention back to your breath. Here’s to reclaiming your power and creating a life you love.

Until next week,

Debbra Blosnich.